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Women and men are constantly trying to fit in with the media's image of what's perfect, when really, there is no direct definition of what perfect is. The media gives us an image of the perfect attractiveness, girls with no fat on their body, perfect shiny flowing hair, flawless skin, etc etc, and guys that are strong, tall, dark, and handsome. The media is like this fantasy realm of human beings that don't exist without photoshop. Now coming back to reality, perfect is different in everyone's eye. When I asked my brother what he describe as the perfect girl, the first thing he said was "a girl that can cook for me." Ah, the old fashion "a way to a man's heart is through his stomach" type. And when I asked a good friend what he thought the perfect girl was, he said "I'll know when I see her." So maybe it's just that I have a lot of great guys in my life, but from what i gather, guys aren't always thinking about what a girl looks like on the outside. Not to say physical appearance isn't important, but it is not the main concern of most guys. Now from a girls perspective, I know that we all say the classic "HE'S HOTT!" but that's not all that girls look for in a guy. Really, I know at least for me, personality and inner qualities is the thing that makes it or breaks it. So why are we so concerned with what is attractive and what's not??! Now back to that realm created by the media, we all see hundreds of advertisements a day... on signs, billboards, tv, internet, movies, etc. The media has a goal of trying to make us believe that this is whats attractive, even though I personally have never seen anyone looking as "flawless" in real life as they are in all of the media sources. Why do we let people who are of no important to us, who probably only have half a brain, decide what is and isn't attractive? Most models would say, "Skinny Sells." Dove may beg to differ, because they're still rolling in the money while using real women as their models. Maybe its because those stick figure models save the designers money on fabric. Bet ya never thought of that one before. Time changes so quickly, and I guarantee what's attractive now will not be attractive in 20, 10, or even 5 years from now.
I think the problem is that girls feel like they need to be skinny and beautiful (whatever that requires for them) to attract a guy. BUT they haven't stopped and actually THOUGHT about what they are attracting. I'm going to be completely honest here because I have several guy friends who have told me this: If a guy sees a "pretty" girl he'll hook up with her, but that's basically it. BECAUSE most of the physically attractive girls out there are so concerned about their looks that they lack a brain and personality! SO all the girls out there concerned with attracting a guy with their physical appearance, you're categorizing yourself as simply a "hook up" in their eyes and not a real girl they would want to date and one day marry. Girls need to stop focusing out the outside and start examining what they are on the inside! Then they will attract a decent guy willing to love them as a person, not just a body!
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