too sexy, too soon?

With Aerie's recently release of a push up bra that is targeted at girls as young as 13, some parents are furious. The bra was released with the idea that it would help girls feel "pretty." Although this idea seems reasonable, I found the thought of 13 years olds wearing push up bras a little off. There is a time in every women's life when she should be feeling sexy, and I don't believe being 13 is the right time for that. I believe that the push up bra will only draw negative attention to the girls, which will in turn make them feel worse about themselves. Whether that attention is negative from older men believing that the 13 year old girls are trying to make themselves look older, or from other girls calling them sluts.... it will all hurt. This may not always be the case, but I can recount several times in my life when I had been called a slut, and several times I had used the word to refer to other girls... I can say from experience, that word hurts. Showing to much skin, or too much cleavage can easily be the cause of that. "look at her! she's dressed like a complete slut!" I can already hear the words echoing down middle school hallways. So I say, lets save the sexy for girl later in their teen years, and to all those 13 year old girls out there, enjoy being a kid while you still can. Trust me, life is much easier there!

an email i recieved....

Let’s get something straight right now.

You are not:

Your body.

Your job.

Your money.

Your possessions.

Your thoughts.

Your fears.

Your self-image.

A victim.

Other people’s opinion of you.

You are:

Love.

A unique expression of the energy of The Uni-verse.

A spiritual being having a human experience.

Creative.

Beautiful.

Connected to abundance, always.

Here to give.

There are TONS of people with LOTS of money who are not happy. There are TONS of people with NO money who are happy. If you’re like me, you want to have  enough money and be happy. To me, that is freedom. To be happy in the world with the freedom to do what I want whenever I want, but also to know that I am in this world but not of this world, and so, not have the world and it’s “things” bog me down.

The implications of the statements made above are this: live your purpose, not your fears. When you live a life and make decisions based on what brings you joy, and then share that joy with others (this is what it means to live your purpose), then things work out. They may get rough at first, or painful (just like pushing out a splinter is painful), but the pain will pass and you will see that you are living a magical life.

If you are not those things listed above and you are the things that are listed, then what would that mean? It would mean that you could cast off the so called “weight of the world”, forget about what “other people” think and train your mind and body to rise above your fears. It means that you could take massive action daily towards living your purpose (aka your dreams) and that it would work out. It would mean that you could face your fears and actually RISE ABOVE THEM by doing so.

It means that you are free to express your love however you feel it should be expressed. It means you have everything you need, and if it is not now here in your life, it will show up exactly when you need it.

See yourself as already connected to everything you desire. You do not need to “create” anything really. All you have to do is move around what The Uni-verse has already created for you to match your desire. You are lacking nothing; you are connected to everything. Surrender the thoughts of fear, lack and limitation and dive deep into possibility. Live from possibility.

Act from possibility and you will soon experience the impossible as possible. Don’t give any attention to what other people think; stay silently true to your dream and let them watch.

Live your life and dreams knowing that some other people won’t understand what you are doing, that struggle is really a way for you to become stronger and that anything is possible when you remember who you really are. Let go of who you are not and dwell in possibility.

my favorite song

this is a song i would like to share with all my readers out there, whoever you may be. I think its a song that really helps you to see you're own beauty, and allows you to be comfortable with who you are. It is my "theme song" to my life. Bomshel is also my favorite band, because they write such powerful songs and sing them soooo amazingly. Look them up! They're great!

after so long.... I'M BACK :)

hello everyone :) after not blogging for so long, i'm back. now, my target will be less on girls body images, and more on how we can work on building our self confidence. i have seen so many girls get destroyed by the envy of other girls. like my first blog post stated, its a girl eat girl world out there. i wish we could solve this problem, but maybe we can. by taking small steps, like instead of envying other girls and hating them for what we don't have and they do, why can't we compliment each other and point out each others strengths? we are all beautiful inside and out, and we all have our own strengths and weaknesses. for instance, english was never my forte. not really english, but reading. (but i love writing as you might be able to tell...) I HATE READING! why? because i was never a fast reader, and i get bored of a book very easy. the only books that i can speed read through are ones that i can somehow relate to my life. reading was always a huge weakness of mine, while writing was always a strength. and although it was a weakness, i never let it stop me. we have to be confident in our strengths, and accept our weaknesses. so to work on battling this girl eat girl world together, i offer you a small challenge. when you're on facebook, or hanging out with a group of girls, maybe some you don't know so well, give at least one TRUE compliment per day. turn envy into a good source of happiness. giving another girl a smile and a little boost of confidence can go a long when. on the other end of that, when you receive a compliment, instead of saying NOO WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT! think about what is being said, and say thank you. really let that compliment sink in. no, that girl wasn't lying to you when she said you were beautiful or that you're hair was perfect. you really are, and it really is.


"Success makes so many people hate you. I wish it wasn't that way. It would be wonderful to enjoy success without seeing envy in the eyes of those around you."
— Marilyn Monroe